Top 5 Ways to Burn Out Your Staff!

by · August 4, 2010

Disclaimer: The image used here is from “Faces of Meth” (Copyright 2005) and it got your attention, right? This is the same woman but 2.5 years later on the right. Believe it or not this is how many staff experiencing burnout feel on their way out – beat up, worthless, confused, insecure, frail, defeated, ugly, used, dejected, on and on and on.  That’s why I chose this image.

While working at a church have you ever thought to yourself, “This wouldn’t fly in the corporate world.”? Oftentimes churches have their own set of rules when it comes to organization, processes, administration, etc.  Seminaries do a great job of corn-feeding the best theology and education to pastors and church leaders, but, they tend to skip the part about the business of running a church.  Combine that with the ADD + OCD + Type A pastors that typically go along with a quickly-growing mega church setting and you’ve got yourself the perfect storm for staff burnout. So, let’s explore together the top 5 ways to burnout church staff – guaranteed!

#5: Espouse “Family First” but Expect “Church First”

How many times have you heard, “We really encourage you to make your family first…” followed by, “Hey, I realize this is last minute (or maybe they don’t), and you’ve got to get home but can you…”?  There is unnecessary pressure applied to staff because, in my opinion, church leaders continuously fail to plan, create unrealistic expectations, and ultimately are poor at time-management.  At the end of the day, a “family-first” church feels more like a “family-later” when staff suddenly have a new task, the pressure of a deadline, and a fear in the back of their minds that they either get this done or they lose their job.

Or, perhaps they don’t fear losing their job, but, the leader requesting the task has grossly overestimated the critical nature of the task to the point where the staff member feels that if they don’t get it done then people won’t know Jesus…and that’s on them.  Try choosing to go home an hour early to play Legos with little Susie and Johnny with that kind of stress.

#4: Job Creep, Pay Fixed

Have you ever heard of  ”scope creep”? It’s when you agree to a set of expectations only to have those expectations slowly grow outside the original scope.  Eventually, you look back and wonder where the project you signed up for went.  Because of the unique nature of a church staff often wear several “hats” to the point of being comical.  Try asking someone that has worked for the church for more than a year what they do and you’ll usually get a little chuckle followed by a list of roles that would never fit neatly on a business card.

There is nothing really wrong with wearing several “hats”.  Giving/tithing at churches is so pathetic that church leadership must constantly walk a tight rope between payroll and the responsibility that comes with managing a growing church.  As a result staff feel the pressure of getting things done that are well outside the scope of what they signed up for.

Here are the steps to burnout in the above scenario:

  1. Hours/Responsibilities increase
  2. Staff become mediocre at their job because they can’t do any one thing really well
  3. Sense of value decreases
  4. Stress-level increases
  5. Spouse/children start noticing
  6. Pay stays the same
  7. Appreciation decreases (because everyone else is stressed and too busy)
  8. Hours/Responsibilities increase again
  9. Burnout

#3: Poorly Cast Vision

This one is simple. Choose any or all of these:

  • Don’t remind staff why they are there
  • Completely avoid talking about where the church is headed
  • Never discuss the reason your staff is a critical part of moving forward
  • Offer no reasons for why you do things or make decisions.  In fact don’t filter any decision thru any vision – that way your staff are kept guessing
  • BONUS: Start to openly compare your church to the bigger, shinier, rockstar church down the street

That should do it.

#2: Don’t Empower Your Staff

There is nothing more rewarding for a staff member than to feel unable to make decisions. Whoops! Of course that’s not right. If the staff is engaged in the church’s vision it is likely that they are there (giving up a higher salary) to continue moving forward in that vision.  They were hired because, ideally, they add tremendous value. They stay because they feel empowered to use their abilities and passions to continue to add value. They feel that they matter.

If you want staff to burn out simply give them expectations to get things done with no empowerment to get them done. And for giggles add some red tape (more typical in older churches) they have to get thru. Then, start questioning and/or overriding every decision they make and they’ll soon be on their way out the door – head hanging, knots in the stomach and neck and completely frustrated.

#1: Lead Pastor: Micromanage

Boom! Yeah, I said it.  Here’s the thing – large, fast-growing churches typically have a lead pastor personality-type that compliments that pace of growth – Type A, OCD.  This isn’t necessarily a negative, until, the lead pastor is up in ee’rybody’s business about every detail.

You’ve got to give the lead pastor grace.  Here’s the deal, the church wasn’t always big. You’ve probably got a story where the church started with 10 couples in a living room, clubhouse or gymnasium – that’s the nature of church growth.  The lead pastor, like a small business owner, was the CEO AND the guy that cleaned the toilets.  He did everything, managed every detail, and made sure things got done.  If a ball was dropped it was his fault.  Fast forward to today – he feels the same pressures & responsibilities. But, now everything is bigger, there’s more people involved and much more to do.  It’s in your lead pastor’s nature to want to control and hold onto everything.  Back in the day this is partly how the church moved forward.

So, what was once necessary to move forward is now completely annoying, frustrating and sometimes hurtful.  To a staff member micromanagement equates to distrust.  Staff think, “Why did he hire me if he questions everything I do?”  For men this is emasculating and for women it creates insecurities, frustrations and resentment.  He/She feels less valued, less empowered, and even begins to question her core identity.

Conclusion

Pastors & leaders: let go and breathe.  Your church will continue to grow, your people will continue to grow.  Newcomers will get connected if they really want to (they aren’t cattle, but that’s another post).  Your staff are capable…trust them.  Continue to cast vision, continue to teach, continue to connect with your church – that’s what you love to do anyway.

If you must, hire an executive pastor to bridge the gap and run the day-to-day.  If you’ve already got an exec, ask yourself if you are burning them out – take them out to lunch, get a feel for where they are at, and then (if necessary) ask for forgiveness.  And while you’re at it, do the same with your staff.  Help them recharge their batteries, create a healthy, dynamic, creative, empowering work environment and watch your staff take on new tasks with excitement!

  • nickasolas

    Regrading #5… Believe it or not, I have heard of a church whose motto to the staff was “Church first, family second.” No joke.

    Great post, BK!

  • http://robinmarnold.blogspot.com Robin Arnold

    What would be cool if folks passed this link on or printed this post out and stuck it in all the committee and staff mail boxes in the church office, then made it a willing topic of discussion and an action goal on all levels. What won't be cool is if folks read this and keep doing the same old same old. And yes, the picture above is accurate, except that after taking a cool new job last June, I looked like that by October. My action, after working the ineffective process was to resign, whereupon changes were made following my departure. I'm fine with that. The Lord calls some people to be agents for change. Maybe add that in as a point of thought too.

  • http://twitter.com/_paulalexander Paul Alexander

    Avoiding burn-out is a 2 way street…the culture and leadership of an organization or church can certainly contribute to Staff burn-out, but the Staff have to allow themselves to be burned out. Staff have personal ownership in most of these scenarios and sometimes the most godly thing a Staff Member can learn to do is say “no.” Let's say it together…”no.” Great post Brian!

  • http://twitter.com/brianckaufman Brian Kaufman

    Good point Paul – and even appropriate considering the image I used – Just Say No!

  • http://twitter.com/Stevefogg Steven Fogg

    I would add another point here.

    It's the staff's responsibility to speak up – before it's too late. Not to give obscure statements about it, but to be really upfront. Everyone I've seen in ministry is highly motivated and 100% bought in to what they are doing for the Kingdom, some to the point where they put their emotional and mental wellbeing last and burn out.

    Don't do it! speak out before its too late.

  • Skippy

    I work in a mega-church where Every. Single. Point in this post is true. So true, I laughed out loud (gallows humor) at nearly every sentence because it was like this article was written about my church from an insider's perspective.

    What you don't understand is, in this type of environment if a staff person speaks out, he/she is labelled as “a negative person” and “negative people” are shown the door with haste.

    If anything, the church board is the only hope for change in these kind of places but, as in my case, there is no employee access to the board and the board is fed information only from the perpetrators that make the church a miserable place to work.

    Lesson learned. Now that I see this is an endemic church problem and not limited to my own experience I can safely say I will never work for a church or faith-based entity again. Anne Rice – I think you've got it right.

  • http://twitter.com/brianckaufman Brian Kaufman

    Skippy, it certainly wasn't my intent to keep you away from churches or faith-based entities. I don't want to breed cynicism. Instead, I'd rather discuss ways that church leaders and staff can work together to foster creativity, planning, encouragement, empowerment & tact in this unique work environment. I've had a few pastors remark that they will be sharing this around the office. Hopefully, this refreshes discussions and brings some resentment out into the light.

    It sounds as though you are already feeling burned out. And while I have certainly been there and can appreciate where you're coming from I hope that you can understand the 5 ways above are not necessarily exclusive to churches – you will find similarities in every workplace. It's people, not place. The question then becomes, “How can I glorify God in my response?”

  • http://culturalawakening.wordpress.com Stan

    I can’t wait to read the blog about how people aren’t cattle. Definitely will be back for that one.

  • http://culturalawakening.wordpress.com Stan

    I can't wait to read the blog about how people aren't cattle. Definitely will be back for that one.

  • Lfsilva

    But then I have seen people marked as bad employee's for saying no. They tell them they are not ministry material. Then they are almost blacklisted.

  • Patrick Sprague

    Hit. The. Nail. On. The. Head.

    Been there, lived all of these steps executed, and left.

    ::sigh::

  • David

    I have found almost all of these points to be true at a church much smaller than a mega-church. Thank you for putting into words what I could not. I know what to look out for now.

  • http://www.tnchurch.wordpress.com Johnkelly

    Loved this post… agree with it 100%… but i am struggling with one thing…Isaiah 40:31 say “but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” Doesn’t this mean that no matter what we face, if we put our faith in the lord (we will not…and cannot burn out)…paul was beaten, the church is persecuted all over the world… but they are not burned out…Gun to your head or a micromanaging boss…either way…if it’s for the kingdom and there is salvations happening…then work it out and move on … but burnout is not an option, not an excuse and it always is at least partly your fault.

  • _simoncheng

    A church being run as an organization or a business by the numbers is really tricky. Yes, the education of a pastoral staff member should definitely include these thoughts: planning, grooming, time and resource management. Well said.
    I wear 5 hats currently as a lay leader, not on staff. That’s the only way that I can keep this going. Oh, how can I neglect to give credit to the Great Guide Jesus has sent me!

  • Former Church Employee

    I worked at a church that did exactly everything except number 1. And I burned out quickly. For example, I was having lunch with my wife on a Saturday afternoon (my only day off) and the Pastor’s personal assistant called me saying they needed something to be put on the Pastor’s blog. I told them I could do it as soon as I got home. Five minutes later, she called back saying they wanted it right then and there. I told them I couldn’t do it because I was out with my wife. Five minutes later, the Pastor called me. He told me that I needed to drop whatever I was doing and get the blog up. His reason was because people depend on his blog for spiritual guidance. My wife and I were very upset that I had to drop my only day with my wife for something so trivial. 

    After numerous times of telling my superiors my frustrations but nothing was done to help me, I started looking for another job. When my boss (the Pastor’s wife) found this out, she fired me on the spot. 

    Now I work at a job that’s half my salary but I’m so thankful I no longer have that stress in my life. But I feel sorry for the guy who took my position because I hear they are doing the same thing to him. 

  • Kristin

    This is the only church we have been involved in or worked for. The staff is small and we are all also part of the main leaders in the church. The elders and such dont really do anything with the daily running of the church. Our pastor and his wife started the church 10 years ago and are involved in the daily running of the church. Im saying all of this because I want to know if this is average. The staff is stressed out and overworked. In the couple of times this has been mentioned the solution is to delegate to volunteers. We are a church of about 300 and our volunteers are as stretched as we are. The staff is 3.5 people. The secretary is the youth p/w leader and on p/w team for main service. The youth pastor is included in the 3.5 and he is also wears many other hats. The staff shares the vision of the church and does everything possible to “move forward”. My stand is that we just cant keep up. I think if we quit taking work home and using every moment we have outside of work to keep things moving and when a new idea comes up and we are expected to make it happen start staying we just cant do it, then maybe the pastors will understand. I hate to sound so negative but everyone is stressed to tears and resentment. Feeling the need to repent for negative feelings daily. None of us want to go to the elders and dont know who else to look to for help because you dont want to be disrespectful. Can you give some advice?

  • http://twitter.com/brianckaufman Brian Kaufman

    Kristen,

    First off, I feel your pain. You’re not alone in your frustration, stress and situation. In fact many churches with 20 times your staff deal with the exact same scenario. It’s not an issue of staff capacity, it’s an issue of unrealistic expectations given the available resources. Church leadership can’t seem to get around the idea of working realistically with what they’ve got.

    Now, there is also the argument that the church does not move forward by the efforts of 3.5 people, but, by the entire body as a whole. I agree with that and some churches are much better at empowering, resourcing, encouraging and managing volunteers than others.

    It sounds from the brief description you provided above that you and/or your staff are burning out. At the same time by blurring the boundaries between work and personal life (which is already blurry enough in the church environment) you are essentially being an enabler to perpetuate the very destructive environment you are trying to avoid.

    Churches in this downward spiral usually experience a staff member who quits with some emotional energy behind him or her. Depending on how critical the staff member was to ministry it can cause the leadership to pause and consider how things might need to change, but, oftentimes the culture does not shift and the overworked theme resumes.

    It is for your family, your church, your pastor and your own benefit to draw a grace-filled line in the sand. It is inappropriate and a straight out lie to feel the entire weight of ministry in your shoulders alone, and you must figure out how to prioritize your tasks. In fact I would go as far as to say you need to treat it like any other job – they compensate you for hours that you provide a service for. There are only so many tasks you can accomplish within those hours. Sure, you may work a little more here or there, but, if it’s anything beyond 20% of your agreed to hours then there is a problem. Your response when more tasks are added to your plate should be something like, “Which tasks and/or items can take a backseat to this new task?” In other words, ask your leadership to help prioritize your tasks based on the resources available.

    Going to the elders rarely fixes these kinds of issues. In fact it usually makes them worse (depending on how critical you are to ministry). Going to the elders basically makes the church leadership look like they are unable to run the ministry. It’s a “win the battle, lose the war” scenario.

    The best advice I can give you is to stay in constant conversation with leadership – give them the opportunity to consider what is priority and empower them to help you organize tasks. Offer grace where necessary and create boundaries for everyone’s sake. A healthy church, just like a healthy relationship, understands expectations, anticipates boundaries, and stays in constant communication.

    I hope that helps!

  • http://twitter.com/brianckaufman Brian Kaufman

    Kristen,

    First off, I feel your pain. You’re not alone in your frustration, stress and situation. In fact many churches with 20 times your staff deal with the exact same scenario. It’s not an issue of staff capacity, it’s an issue of unrealistic expectations given the available resources. Church leadership can’t seem to get around the idea of working realistically with what they’ve got.

    Now, there is also the argument that the church does not move forward by the efforts of 3.5 people, but, by the entire body as a whole. I agree with that and some churches are much better at empowering, resourcing, encouraging and managing volunteers than others.

    It sounds from the brief description you provided above that you and/or your staff are burning out. At the same time by blurring the boundaries between work and personal life (which is already blurry enough in the church environment) you are essentially being an enabler to perpetuate the very destructive environment you are trying to avoid.

    Churches in this downward spiral usually experience a staff member who quits with some emotional energy behind him or her. Depending on how critical the staff member was to ministry it can cause the leadership to pause and consider how things might need to change, but, oftentimes the culture does not shift and the overworked theme resumes.

    It is for your family, your church, your pastor and your own benefit to draw a grace-filled line in the sand. It is inappropriate and a straight out lie to feel the entire weight of ministry in your shoulders alone, and you must figure out how to prioritize your tasks. In fact I would go as far as to say you need to treat it like any other job – they compensate you for hours that you provide a service for. There are only so many tasks you can accomplish within those hours. Sure, you may work a little more here or there, but, if it’s anything beyond 20% of your agreed to hours then there is a problem. Your response when more tasks are added to your plate should be something like, “Which tasks and/or items can take a backseat to this new task?” In other words, ask your leadership to help prioritize your tasks based on the resources available.

    Going to the elders rarely fixes these kinds of issues. In fact it usually makes them worse (depending on how critical you are to ministry). Going to the elders basically makes the church leadership look like they are unable to run the ministry. It’s a “win the battle, lose the war” scenario.

    The best advice I can give you is to stay in constant conversation with leadership – give them the opportunity to consider what is priority and empower them to help you organize tasks. Offer grace where necessary and create boundaries for everyone’s sake. A healthy church, just like a healthy relationship, understands expectations, anticipates boundaries, and stays in constant communication.

    I hope that helps!

  • …..

    Wow. I am soooooo glad I stumbled across your website. It’s like a breath of fresh air. I work at a predominately white mega church & I’m from the city & I’m not white…. The culture clash can be crazy & stressful at times but I’m learning.